The Least and Last Thing to Do is Having a Divorce

It is not that surprising that married couples do sometimes result in divorce. This goes to show that both of them do not want to continue their married life because of their differences. Sometimes, both couple resort in ways that one has to destroy other person’s credibility and personality. Here are some of the tips and ideas on how a couple should do to save and treasure their marriage.

Learn to start a simple conversation with your partner. Even if it’s hard for the both of you to talk, try to open up simple topics like asking him or her where did she brought her shirt or his cap or whatever you notice that looks good on him or her. Then, if he she responds by answering your question in a nice manner, you could ask another question until your conversation develops to a nice and meaningful communication. Communication is a two way process. Both couple should learn to listen to each other and respect each opinion. If they do not agree on a certain topic, both should sit down for a while and think other ways on how they can both agree on it. Constant communication is essential and the foundation of marriage. Divorce is often a product if the married couple is not in speaking terms. Both couple should express their feelings in a calm and understanding manner or otherwise the opposites will be signs that marriage is over. However, in that way, they could save and strengthen their relationship.

Be forgiving and learn to let go. It often takes time to forgive and forget the things that hurt a person. It sometimes results in developing grudge and hatred towards a person involved. Think about these circumstances, your partner is holding a grudge over you because of a certain misunderstanding you had in the past or on who is to blame scenario. Have you already forgiven your partner about these things? If you have not and you do not want to have that tension between the two of you, and then begin to ask yourself, does couples counseling work? Also, forgiving means resetting the relationship, it is like having a very clean plate after you have used it. It is very undeniable that certain things are very hard to forget and forgive just like have an affair to another person and those who have been part of an abusive past. If you are really into saving the marriage, you can always ask or make some agreements with your partner to stay away from those scenarios and make sure they will have a word on that. Forgiving is not a thing for the weak but it is more of understanding the mistakes and one is ready to let go of those hurts or whatsoever. Forgiving and asking for forgiveness is a very easy thing to do yet it is very hard to say but you do not want to sacrifice your relationship forever just because you are caught up by your pride in doing the forgive me, I forgive you thing.

The couples who are able to communicate about the indifference they have and forgive each other can really save the marriage and divorce will be the least thing to do. Always remember that in every decisions you make, you should put into considerations a lot of factors and think about the things that will make you happy- do not be very impulsive.